The Forgiveness Experiment

At this level the victim's viewpoint has again moved further away from simply identifying themselves as victims. At this point the victim is considering the abuser's consciousness. The key point at this level of awareness is the consideration that what the abuser did was a reflection of something within the abuser not the victim. The victim may realize that how they respond determines the degree of how victimized they feel.
An analogy would be to differentiate between being offended when insulted by a person who is diagnosed with a severe mental illness as opposed to being offended by a supposed mentally healthy person.
If one is walking through a psych ward and one is verbally attacked by a resident, one can right it off as just a mentally ill person expressing themself and not personalize the attack.
When one realizes that anyone who would attempt to hurt another(considering karmic law) is acting from a place of sickness, then one less likely to "take it personally".
One can simply look at attacks as expressions of other people's sicknesses. The more esoteric teachings define attacks as twisted cries for help.
One can let go more easily and can view the incident as an expression of the abuser's illness rather than as a personal attack.
Hence, I forgive you for your sake, you must be quite ill to have done this. I have no reason to be hurt by your action, it was not personal ,just a reflection of your dis - ease.